As any casual glance at the tabloids will tell you, the romantic life of an unmarried celebrity can be hell.
There's the tyranny of the paparazzi, always pushing.
The scrutiny of the fan base, ever-needy. And sometimes the choices seem stultifyingly narrow: Vince Vaughn, Jennifer Aniston, Reese Witherspoon, Kevin Federline, Jessica Simpson, Paris Hilton. They pair off, break up, then go in search of another boldface name.
At times they seem caught in some endless celebrity relationship round-robin.
But it turns out that not all celebrities crave that kind of familiarity. Perhaps in reaction to Hollywood's love-life-in-a-fishbowl, a small number of movie stars are turning to high-end professional matchmakers to introduce them to people with no connection to the entertainment world, then spreading the word among their friends.
"If they wanted to meet someone in Hollywood, they would have done that. They've gone down that path, and it hasn't been successful," said Barbie Adler, a Chicago-based matchmaker who has built a small but steady business of setting up celebrities, along with her other well-heeled clients.
"I've had clients say to me, `My publicist fixed me up, I just met him in the limo, I had to pose for pictures and spend all night with him and he was a dud,'" she said.
Samantha Daniels, a matchmaker based in New York, opened a Los Angeles office to meet her rising celebrity demand. She said none of her celebrity clients want to be paired with another celebrity.
"They don't say it as an absolute," she said. "But they'd prefer to meet someone, if they're an actress, who's not an actor. If they're hiring me, it's to expand their possibilities."
These celebrities rely on Adler, Daniels and a few others -- all of whom sign confidentiality agreements -- to discreetly introduce them to someone who is attractive, sane, duly impressed yet not star-struck.
And who are their clients? They include major household names: two tabloid regulars, an A-list female star, a movie star of a previous era and a leading actor on an HBO series, according to information independently verified. Representatives for each of the clients denied that they had hired a matchmaker. The matchmakers themselves said their lips were sealed.
Frank Smith, a 57-year-old Boston businessman and a client of Adler's, has been dating one of those stars, an Academy Award-winning actress several years older than him, for eight months. (He declined to give her name.) At first, he was intrigued about the notion of dating an iconic figure.
But "what's thrilling falls away really quickly," he said. "What's interesting is that she's a great person, interesting."
Smith's business, developing electrical plants, leaves him low-profile and with long stretches of idle time followed by frantic deal-making.
"My life is chaotic, and her life is chaotic," he said.
But, he added: "In my world, I'm the anti-celebrity. I don't go to a cocktail party and say, `I build power plants.' If I had set out to be a public person, I'd be in a different place."
Still, he doesn't mind being ignored on the red carpet, or when strangers approach them in public.
"The only thing I worry is, `How is she going to deal with that one?"' he said. "But celebrities know how to handle it."
On the other hand, Sandy Frank, a TV producer and distributor who declined to give his age but was working for Paramount in the 1950s (he made his fortune syndicating Japanese films and US game shows), is looking for someone other than a celebrity to date. He said he commonly used the services of Christie Nightingale, a New York-based matchmaker, when he is on the East Coast, and another matchmaker, Kelleher & Associates, on the West Coast.
"Having spent a lot of time in California, the caliber of women you get in the Hollywood community -- these are models, actresses -- they're airheads, essentially," he said. "If you're in the mode for a serious relationship, you have to go beyond the airhead."
But it is tough on celebrities, he said, because they never know why others are attracted to them.
"Is it the person? Or is it the celebrity? What is there? That's why a lot of men end up with their secretary," he said.
Female celebrities often want a man who is successful in his own right, especially an entrepreneur or "someone of power," Adler said.
Men "are looking for someone who's not a diva," she said.
"Someone down to earth, sweet, warm," she added. "Someone to make babies with."
And, in both cases, celebrities often want someone who is willing to take a supporting role, and not step into their limelight.
Tamara Rawitt, a producer of In Living Color and other shows, has watched many of her celebrity couple friends break up.
"Two alphas do not equal a functional relationship in any field, and these stars all have the `egola' virus. It's very hard when you're in the radar of the egola virus," she said.
In recent years numerous celebrities have said publicly that they have had enough of entertainment inbreeding, and yearn to escape the nonstop attention inside the Hollywood bubble. After watching his longtime friend Ben Affleck become weekly fodder for the tabloids, Matt Damon swore a few years ago he'd never date an actress again. He is now wed to Luciana Barroso, an Argentine former bartender.
Nicolas Cage, previously married to actress Patricia Arquette and entertainment royalty Lisa Marie Presley, has more recently married Alice Kim, a former waitress. Chris O'Donnell, a tabloid presence when he was single, has a peaceful life below the radar since marrying a schoolteacher, Caroline Fentress, in 1997.
The desire for more privacy, and for some semblance of normalcy, is widespread. Sharon Stone, for one, divorced from the San Francisco newspaper editor Phil Bronstein and living back in Los Angeles, has told close friends that she wants to find a partner outside of entertainment.
The rise of dating reality shows and online dating services like match.com may make the prospect of a fix-up seem less strange, even to a celebrity.
Daniels, 37, fixed up Nick Cannon, the heart-throb star of Drumline, for a date that was televised on Extra. And in February, relationship guru Dr. Phil McGraw sent Paula Abdul, the sometimes-loopy American Idol judge, on a blind date, then analyzed the evening for a Valentine's Day special.
But why would a celebrity, who draws the constant attention of strangers, need help meeting people? Professional matchmakers say that actors' crazy-quilt schedules, the fear of "gotcha" videos and -- frankly -- pride make it more difficult for celebrities to meet suitable partners than the average person.
Said Daniels: "Basically I get a lot of these stories: `I was at this party, I saw this woman I was really attracted to. I wanted to say hello, but didn't think I could because maybe some tabloid would write about me."'
The evening goes by, she said, and instead of meeting the person who caught their eye, they are surrounded by giggling fans.
The matchmakers do not come cheap. Adler charges about US$20,000 for a program that includes her cell phone number, coaching on dating etiquette, feedback and access to her database of some 50,000 clients.
Daniels' fee starts from US$25,000 for a similar program to book her services for a year. She got involved in Hollywood during the making of a television show, Miss Match, based on her life, in 2003.
"All of a sudden publicists, managers and agents started calling me," she said. "They didn't want to do it anymore."
Not all the celebrities function well outside the privileged world to which they've become accustomed. Adler recalled finding a match for an actress who said she wanted "the guy next door - a mellow, smart, humble guy."
But when her date would choose a restaurant, the actress' manager or assistant would call and say, "`She really wants to go here,"' Adler said.
"She said she wants a man who takes charge, and she kept undoing everything he was doing. And at dinner, it was all about the fans, talking to everyone else," Adler said.
The couple broke up.
And that appears to sum up the track records of the matchmakers interviewed for this article. None have put together a marriage -- yet. Daniels said she has one celebrity client who has been dating someone for about 10 months.
Sometimes the "civilians" find that dating a celebrity isn't all they dreamed. Daniels fixed up one of her girlfriends, an interior designer, with a divorced A-list actor, she said, who found that the actor almost never wants to leave his mansion.
Lately, though, Daniels has found that some of her non-Hollywood clients have been making requests.
"I just had a guy ask me about Jennifer Aniston," she said. "`If she moves to New York do you think you can get me a date with her?"'
Why not, she figures, adding that she had tracked down celebrities for her clients before.
"He's a talented, successful businessman who I think she might want to go out with," Adler said.
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