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• Why men have the most to gain from ‘Barbie’

  Men suffer under patriarchy, too — and Ryan Gosling’s man-child Ken is a brilliant demonstration of that in the film

  • By Akin Olla / The Guardian
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  I did not expect to cry during Barbie, let alone to weep for Ken, the lonely man-child who is barely more significant than the ampersand that sits between him and his lover’s name.

  While Greta Gerwig’s movie is full of feminist sentiment, much of it feels like deeply trodden ground, long explored by movies from 2001’s lighthearted Legally Blonde to 2014’s cutting Gone Girl. What sets Barbie apart is its introduction to the mainstream of an idea introduced by feminists like bell hooks — that men, too, can benefit from feminism and are actively harmed by the capitalist patriarchal systems that allow a small group of men to dominate society while individual men get to dominate their homes and workplaces, isolating themselves from their family and inner selves in the process.

  Much of the film is set in Barbieland, a fictional universe in which Barbies lovingly reign supreme and Ken dolls are relegated to essentially worshiping their Barbies and living for little else. Our main Ken, played by Ryan Gosling, is especially dour about the situation, feeling neglected by his Barbie, played by Margot Robbie, and in constant competition with other Kens for her affection.

  After following Barbie to our world — the real world, so to speak — Ken is struck by the inverted gender dynamics and seeks to bring the dominance of men to Barbieland. He returns to establish the “Kendom,” instituting Kens at the top and placing Barbies in subservient roles that exist to coddle, pamper and perform cuteness for the Kens in their lives. The new society eventually collapses due to infighting among the Kens. Upon the final crash, Gosling’s Ken admits he was never really happy with patriarchy either.

  The plight of Ken under Kendom closely resembles the condition of men in society. While rich men — who seem to be quite miserable and unfulfilled — lord over society, the masses of men suffer in isolation and competition.

  According to a 2021 American Perspectives Survey, 15 percent of men do not have a single close friend; 28 percent of men under the age of 30 report having no close social connections, meaning that they have not had a single important personal conversation within the past six months. This does not only affect cisgender men: Some transgender men report new feelings of isolation and increased difficulty with connecting with other men after transitioning.

  Social isolation can be devastating.

  Such isolation “significantly [increases] a person’s risk of premature death from all causes, a risk that may rival those of smoking,” the US Center for Disease Control and Prevention has said.

  This is terrifying, with implications not only for the men who are increasingly likely to harm themselves but for those around them.

  According to Jillian Peterson, a professor of criminology at Hamline University, that kind of isolation leads to self-hate, and men who externalize that self-hate are perfect candidates for becoming mass shooters.

  While that is the most extreme end of it, there are lesser but still harmful consequences to a society based on competition and domination of other nations, companies and human beings. As most men cannot dominate their own society, they are pushed to dominate those closest to them. This shows up in increasing domestic homicide rates and emotional abuse such as Jonah Hill’s attempts to control his now ex-girlfriend’s life by forcing her to abandon her career to prop up his insecure ego. At the heart of these patterns of toxic masculinity is a sense of valuelessness engendered by an economic system that relies on gender roles.

  Much like Ken’s entire life and identity revolves around Barbie, most men’s lives revolve around capitalism and providing value for wealthier men — an unequal exchange that often masquerades as hustle culture, entrepreneurship or career climbing.

  Capitalism replaced communities with nuclear families, demanding that individual men become the main source of resource acquisition for their loved ones. This identity as a breadwinner is burdensome, especially in a zero-sum system in which one person’s employment often means another person’s unemployment, in the same way that there can only be one Ken for each Barbie. All humans have become mere calculations for corporations, just as replaceable as the machines and tools we operate, and men likely feel that in their bones.

  This is not to say that people who are not men are having a blast under our system. They are not, as demonstrated by record rates of depression among teenage girls. But girls and women have long theorized and built vehicles for their emancipation from this system, while men have only recently begun to wake up to the reality that a more just world would be good for them, too.

  Unfortunately, a lot of men are being organized in the opposite direction. The rise of the “manosphere” — a network of misogynist communities with digital platforms like blogs, podcasts and forums — is a real threat to the liberation of men from their plight. Incels and male supremacists use men’s very real struggles to fuel hatred toward women while ignoring the systemic roots of their own pain. They demonize and attack the Barbies in their life, evading the reality that Barbieland was maintained externally by the men of Mattel.

  Manosphere spaces serve as a path toward right-wing extremism for young men: What starts as resentment toward a crush can quickly become active harassment, violence and even mass violence — as in the case of Elliot Rodger, the Santa Barbara shooter who killed six people in 2014, and has since become a hero to some sections of the manosphere.

  Organizations such as Black Men Build are providing clear paths for black men, and others, to engage in their own liberation. Through monthly conversations about how issues such as abuse and assault affect men, too, as well as community service and political education, participants get a deeper sense of how the system works and how it impacts them.

  We need more of this — more men who are interested in not only transforming themselves but transforming society into something beautiful and gentle and worth living in, a Barbieland for us all.

  Akin Olla is a contributing opinion writer at the Guardian US.
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