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• Ex-kidnapping victims say Jayme Closs needs space

  • AP, CHICAGO
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  Katie Beers’ joy quickly turned to deep concern when she learned 13-year-old Jayme Closs had been found alive in rural Wisconsin nearly three months after police said a man shot and killed her parents then abducted her from their home.

  “She is going to have to grieve the loss of her parents and also come to terms with the fact she was abducted, escaped and whatever [other] hell she went through, and it’s not going to be easy,” Beers said.

  Beers knows that better than most.

  Yesterday marked 26 years since a then-10-year-old Beers was rescued from an underground concrete bunker in Bay Shore, New York, where she had been held captive for more than two weeks by a family friend who had lured her to his home with the promise of birthday presents.

  As Closs begins to process her trauma, experts and former victims say that what she needs most is space and time to discuss it on her own terms.

  “One of the things that helped me recover so quickly is that nobody forced me to talk about what happened,” said Beers, 36, who is married with two children. “I didn’t even do interviews until I was 30. I didn’t have to relive it every day.”

  Authorities said Closs was skinny, disheveled and wearing shoes too big for her when she approached a stranger on Thursday and pleaded for help in the small north woods town of Gordon, about 100km from her hometown of Barron.

  Jake Thomas Patterson, 21, was quickly arrested and jailed on kidnapping and homicide charges.

  It is unclear exactly what Closs experienced, so people must be careful how they interact with her, said Duane Bowers, a trauma therapist who works with families of missing and exploited children and adults.

  Although friends and family might be eager to know details, the only control the victim has is when, to whom and how they tell their story, Bowers said, adding that is especially true of Closs, who has lost so much.

  For most child kidnapping victims, they have the hope that their parents will find them, “but in this case she knew her folks were dead and couldn’t find her,” he said.

  So now, “she needs to feel ... in control and experience her memories in a way that ... doesn’t retrigger” her trauma, Bowers said.

  Elizabeth Smart, who was 14 when she was kidnapped at knifepoint from her Salt Lake City home in 2002, said that questions that might seem harmless could be hurtful.

  Smart said she would get defensive when people asked her why she did not run or scream when her captors sometimes traveled with her out in the open.

  Smart was found nine months after her disappearance while walking with her kidnappers in a Salt Lake City suburb by people who recognized the couple from media reports.

  As an adult she realized they did not mean any harm, she said.

  “My brain heard that question as: ‘You should have tried harder. You should have run, you should have yelled, this is somehow your fault,’” Smart said. “So, I would just caution her community and anyone able to interact with her to really think about the questions they are asking her.”

  Beers and Smart said they are proof that trauma survivors can go on to live happy and fulfilling lives.

  “It’s never going to be easy, but with the correct support, the correct people to talk to and people there who love you, she’s going to be able to survive and thrive,” Beers said.
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