Most women who are unhappy with their sex lives have rocky marriage relationships, according to results of a recent ACNielsen survey announced yesterday.
The results also indicated that erectile dysfunction (ED) -- the repeated inability to get or keep an erection -- affects not only men but also women, and that ED exerts more pressure on women than on men.
Eighty-six percent of the women who are happy with their sex lives are also happy in their marriages, while only 26 percent of the women unhappy with their sex lives are satisfied with their marriage relationships.
ED is nothing to be ashamed of, said Cheng Cheng-chieh (鄭丞傑), director of the Taiwan Gynecologists' Association for Mental Health. It is something every man will have to face eventually, he said.
The reason that ED exerts more pressure on women than on men is that a woman may feel that she is no longer attractive or that she does not perform well in bed, Cheng said.
Some wives even feel that their men are cheating on them because their sex lives come to a halt, said Wu Chuan-yu (
"Women tend to blame it on themselves when their husbands stop having sex with them," Wu said. "However, approximately 60 percent of these women's husbands have ED without them knowing it."
Wu said that men often do not admit that they have ED and resort to blaming their wives to hide their dysfunctions.
"Men with ED often call their wives a `dead fish' in bed to make them feel bad," Wu said.
However, Wu said, with the rise of feminism in recent years, women have slowly become bolder and have started voicing their sexual needs instead of suppressing them.
"The most important thing is for both the husband and wife to communicate and find a method to restart their sex life together," Wu said.
The survey targeted married women with husbands over the age of 40, wives whose husbands have ED and ED patients.
A total of 613 people were polled.