Love in the hospice 安寧醫護情 病房拍婚紗

Tue, Apr 14, 2015 - Page 11

“I thought I will never get married,” said Chen Yenhua, who comes from a broken family and is easily depressed; she even fears her patients’ death. While providing care for patients at the hospice, she saw how patients bonded with — and were accompanied by — their family members near the end of their lives, and began to relearn the relationship between life and family. She learned for the first time how to forgive past wounds and experienced the importance of love and seizing the moment. She began to mend her relationship with her parents and accepted the pursuit of Tien Minghung, an intern who worked in the same wards with her.

To Tien, it was love at first sight. He found Chen to be quite different from the other nurses, in that Chen was willing to spend a lot of time with her hospice patients, who suffered from serious physical and mental pain. “She is very considerate and sympathetic,” said Tien. However, Chen was preoccupied by providing care for her patients and had no interest in Tien in the beginning. She only noticed that this young man, who was two years younger than she, would quietly bring her drinks or cards. Then, there was this one time when they were chatting and Chen talked about her parents’ separation, Tien had tears in his eyes. “His kind and gentle heart touched me,” said Chen.

The two saw each other for two years and considered getting married. Tien planned to practice medicine in Taipei and the couple had a disagreement about the future. A hospice patient surnamed Chang, who treated Chen like a mother to her child, did not want to see her suffer for the relationship, so she spoke to Tien on the phone, telling him that Chen is a nice girl, worth holding on to. Chen also reflected on herself and asked herself, “Do our disagreements still matter when one day we also have to face death?” With Mrs. Chang’s mediation and blessing, the two decided to make peace and spend the rest of their lives together. However, Mrs. Chang passed away in June last year because of gastric cancer and could not live to see Chen in her wedding gown.

The couple will tie the knot in June this year. They had their wedding photographs taken in the hospice. Mrs. Chang’s husband, Mr. Chang went to the hospital to give them his blessings and thank Chen for taking care of his wife. To avoid disturbing the patients, the couple took wedding photos in the hospice’s prayer room, corridor and the hospice’s very important “spa room” to recapture what it was like when they worked together and remember every life story that they have encountered. Chen said, “There is not enough time to waste. I will not care for my husband only when he is about to pass away. I will seize twenty-four hours a day, everyday to take good care of him.”

(Liberty Times, Translated By Ethan Zhan)