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There were two in a bed ?

Paul Rosenblatt studied how couples sleep together and discovered snoring, sex, sheet-stealing, spooning and life-saving

By Kate Murphy  /  NY TIMES SERVICE , NEW YORK

A couple sleeping throughout the night.

PHOTO: NY TIMES NEWS SERVICE

While researching rural life more than 20 years ago, Paul Rosenblatt took his 12-year-old son with him to interview farm families in the Midwest. Father and son stayed in a farmhouse and had to share a bed.

“It was terrible,” said Rosenblatt, a professor of sociology at the University of Minnesota, Twin Cities, because his son thrashed and turned so much that “his feet were in my face all night.”

Tired and bedraggled the next day, he recalled thinking about how challenging it can be to adapt to sleeping with another person.

In more recent research — on grief — Rosenblatt interviewed couples whose children had died.

“They quite often would tell me that they dealt with their grief by holding each other and talking together in bed at night,” he said. “It seemed that I kept being reminded of how sharing a bed impacts our lives and sense of well-being.”

And yet, no one had really studied it, perhaps because sharing a bed is so mundane, Rosenblatt said. So he wrote Two in a Bed: The Social System of Couple Bed Sharing, published this summer by State University of New York Press.

“It’s not a self-help book,” he said, but an examination of some of the common and often humorous issues couples face when sharing a bed, including spooning, sheet-stealing and snoring.

“My hope is that the book will influence the world of sleep research so sleep is no longer viewed as an individual phenomenon,” Rosenblatt said.

There are thousands of studies on sleep, but only a handful on couples sleeping together.

The National Sleep Foundation, a nonprofit group in Washington that supports education and research on sleep and sleep disorders, estimates that 61 percent of Americans share their bed with a significant other. And while the very presence of another person in bed increases the chance of sleep disruption, 62 percent of those polled in the foundation’s annual sleep study said they preferred to bed down with their partner.

In researching his book, Rosenblatt said even though many couples said they slept better alone, they still shared a bed. “When I asked why, they looked at me as if I’d asked them why they keep breathing,” he said.

For Two in a Bed, Rosenblatt interviewed 42 couples. Most of them were married heterosexual couples but some were unmarried heterosexual or homosexual couples. Intimacy and comfort were the primary reasons couples gave for sleeping together.

“Some mentioned sex, but not a lot,” Rosenblatt said. Most reported that the bed is where they talked. “The bed is where they found privacy and were able to leave behind the distractions and separate interests that keep them apart during the day. There’s also something about late night that allowed them to open up and connect.”

Several interviewees reported that difficulty sleeping together or sleeping apart had led to the dissolution of previous marriages, and that sleeping together was essential to maintaining their relationships. Rosenblatt found that it might also save lives.

“It surprised me how many people thought they were alive today because they shared a bed,” Rosenblatt said.

For example, he said a woman’s seizure was noticed immediately by her husband with whom she spooned every night. Similar stories came from couples where one partner had a heart attack, stroke or went into diabetic shock.

The couples Rosenblatt interviewed described how they had had to adjust to sleeping with their partner. Many reported conflicts over bedroom temperature, where to locate the bed and how to make the bed. Watching television, reading and eating in bed were other contentious issues, as was sleeping in the nude. There were quarrels over the alarm clock and whether to allow children or pets into the bed.

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